main joint...

Word:
sin·gle
Pronunciation:
\ˈsiŋ-gəl\
Function:
adjective
Definition:
1 a: not married b: of or relating to celibacy

Single is such a vague term nowadays.I mean like, growing up it always meant Hey are you single?? 'no I'm not in a relationship' and 'yeah, you have a chance to become that relationship that i'm not in right now'.It's not like we were thinkina bout marriage back then. But now there are so many effin exceptions to the rule.

I have come up with a few classifications of the single man. There's the single and not ready to mingle anytime soon, there's the single just so i can say i am, and there's the actually single..

ActuallySingle is the guy that will approach you and genuinely want something from you. Whether it's to fuck or actually get to know you better. Thing about these dudes is... some are good for you and some are bad. Just because they're actually single doesn't mean they're looking not to be. Girls get that effed up. Some ActuallySingle dudes are lookin for a girl and some aren't. These guys are single by definition.. no strings attached.

Single(So I Can Say I Am) might just be the worst single guy out there. These are the guys that are technically single but really they got this main joint that might as well be their girlfriend. These dudes aren't in a relationship because either... there's distance between him and her, she doesn't want to commit, or just so he can say he is single when he is at the club and meets YOU yet he has no intention of getting very far.

SingleNoMingle is the guy that just got out of a long term relationship and doesn't want to have a girl friend anytime soon .yadda yadda yahhh you've heard it before. this is the guy that is hurt.. and is morphing into a woman-usin asshole. the good thing about the SingleNoMingle guys is you can try to save him and be there for him in his time of need and all that gooshy stuff... be patient... he'll come around and become ActuallySingle.

"here we go yo, here we go yo, so what so what so what's the scenario"

Scenario 1:

I met a Single(So I Can Say I Am) at the club last week. Ok.. ok... I know! Red flag... I met a guy at the club whatever... I'm over it. ANYWAY, I met him at the club.. we danced, exchanged numbers, been textin' it up, you know gettin' to know each other through eGame... but then I did some research.. [via FaceBook of course] and this dude has a main joint. Like chick has been aroun for yeeeaaarrrrssss... [yes i did some hardcore investigatin] and she still is.. he has yet to mention her though but i mean i understand that cuz he's still feelin me out. But does this mean I have no chance from the jump?

Scenario 2:

Me and another Single(So I Can Say I Am) accidently fell into each others lips at this party but we were like just good friends. But after that night we realized that I mean whoa we could have feelings for each other. When we sobered down and discussed it a few days later, he told me about how technically he was single but he ain't gon lie to me... he's been seriously 'talking' to this girl for a while now.. [i'm guessin' this is one of those joints where the chick don wanna commit] but he still wanted to talk to me and see where it could go.
Uhm.... false.
I wasn't about to agree to be the other woman! are you kidding me??!!? And in my mind, he was puttin limitations on where we could go from the jump so... what was the point? Was it possible that he was gettin' sick of her and I coulda been that straw to break the camels back?

SO those are our scenarios. Advice greatly appreciated and shit.

WHOLE TIME
I'm just tryina be somebodys main joint.
All I'm tryina do
is be somebodys main boo..
All I'm tryina be
is somebodys main squeeze
can i get an Amen?!?
Y'all don't hear me..

Adapted from JazzyBooBoo's Blog: Boys, Dogs and Men

you THINK you know, but you have NO IDEA: College Life... Friends

So here is december... pretty much the end of my first semester of college...

there's a lot that i think i have learned in these past 3 almost 4 months...
at first i was not enjoying my experience here, but i have realized that this is a growing experience and im learning. being here, god-willingly, will make me a better person. not only academically and intellectually but in my time here i think i am maturing.. i am learning about the world that i have always watched under the protection of my parents. yea, BC isn't the world, but it's a portion of it.. and im here.. alone.. and im growing...


so in celebration of this new realization of growth and the end/ survival of my first semester of college EVERRR lol, i am going to do a little mini series about the things i have learned more about here at BC

newhoo here is the first article i guess you can say..

I came into to college thinking I was going to meet a lot of new people, that I would acquaint some, befriend others, and fall in love with one...
I thought that coming to college would mean that I would have the ginormous groups of friends and we'd be super tight by the time Thanksgiving came around...

Now looking back, I realize that it was silly of me to think that that would happen, when all the times before that I have enjoyed the company of a few close friend...

I came here and I can say that I "acquainted" with everyone. We'd chill, eat together, go to class together, go out together.. It was fun. but it still didn't have that "college bestfriends" feeling to me..
Soon everyone was grouping off into the "friendship-groups" lol. And although I felt as is I could hang out and chill with anyone here at BC, I never felt that genuine click with anyone.. and it bothered me because I didn't understand how everyone had found their bestfriends and I still hadn't...
I didn't comprehend how someone could meet another person and all of a sudden become their bestfriend.. like in just a month... for me tight friendships like that had to be developed over time.. iono...

Soo.. i have had an epiphany...
I'm not like everyone else... So there for I going to go about things differently..
So when people found their "BFFL" in a month.. I found my real friends in three.. and even then, nothing is ever certain..

NEWHO.. i found some people at BC that i truely care for... and ima miss then MUCHO GRANDE come winter breakk :-(
and if you still haven't found those "friends" don't stress it... it will come in time..


peaceee


Quote timee: "The making of friends, who are real friends, is the best token we have of a man's success in life" -Edward Everett Hale

Okay, so today I broke up with my boyfriend of 2years and 2 months... but i feel fine. not the fucked-up, INsecure, Emo fine, but the I feel okay fine... I mean, we been on this slippery slope...down hill of course, so I've been expecting to break up with him for a while. I was guna do it after the holidays tho b/c the holidays are sposed to be happy and stuff. Plus, his ex-broke up with him about 2 years ago...around xmas... I shoulda known it wasnt guna work out by how the relationship started. Anywhoo, moving on... Okay so, speaking of the DEVIL, his ex...yeah, she ruined him. Str8 up fucked him all over...the stupid slut. But anyway...im jus sayin this because I guess im jus now realizin that you really cant FIX a ruined man. I tried to, and it didnt work out. So now im single and ready to mingle... I thought id be heart broken... but im not. Im just a lil bitter sweet. Bitter because I did EVERYTHING a good... no FUCK good... a GREAT girl friend should do. I was there for him, in whatever he wanted to do, be it with the relationship or life wise, I supported him, I waited a year and a half for him to even ASK ME OUT!!! shit! If that doesnt say enough, what does? He was my first real relationship, my first love. We share the same habbits (dont drink, dont smoke) but not the same life goals (I will get married and have children, he wont). Im a go getter... im determined to be a lawyer and make my way to DA, I dont care how many years of schooling I need. He has settled for what career field he can go into with credits from fucking MC! I could go on forever...but i wont. I just dont understand how I gave him ALL my time, ALL my energy, ALL my love, ALL my everything... and got SHIT back in return... but it's w/e. I know that God puts people in your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime...he wass just my reason, that stretched into a season. I honstly dont think it was sposed to go as far as it did. But what more can I say...idk... HE BETTER NOT CALL ME TONIGHT EITHER! shit...im a bitter mad angry black woman now... sike jkjk he's not guna ruin it for the next man, I wont let him... I really do hope that he finds someone that he's willing to change for one day tho... IDK y it wasnt me, guess im not pretty, young, or hispanic enough (like his ex... shes like 16...she was 14 when he dated her... and he was like 18... sick shit... i shoulda known! I SHOULDA KNOWN!!!) PS-sorry if there are any type-o's... im not in the editing mood...

What SHE Gotta Do Wit Me?!?!

I am usually completely against infidelity. I mean I still am. But for the first time in my life I'm seein it from the perspective of the other woman. Dunn Dunn Dunn!

"here we go yo, here we go yo, so what's, so what's the scenario"

Say so and so just found out that the dude she's been seeing [on campus] actually has a long term girlfriend [back home]. What attitude should so and so have? Well usually I'd say so and so should stop talking to him. I mean she wouldn't want to be in the dudes girlfriend right. Treat others how you wanna be treated. Golden rule right?
But in actuality, so and so did nothing wrong.
He lied and said he didn't have s girlfriend. Should finding out that he was lying change her behavior? I mean he lied for a reason. What SHE gotta do wit so and so?

Girls are just as bad as guys these days.
Say you were the 'girlfriend back home'.. you can't be mad at so and so because so and so is just doing what you'd do in that position [since the dude lied]. Girls are ruthless anyway. It's true.

But at the end of the day its on the nigha.
Girls get mad at girls over this shit...
but he's playing you BOTH!

Botha y'all need to drop his ass like hot...
hot...

damn..
i can't think of a good simile..

all i know is
I MUST BE BUTTA CUZ I'M ON A ROLL!!!

lol i need to go to sleep.

He says, He means

Before we get this one going I just want to tell you guys..
Kanye West got arrested this morning... Damn
For assault, in England
Paparazzi need to chill out. Gettin my man Kan in trouble.
OH and look at this video...
This could be a hit or miss..


NOW FOR OUR ARTICLE!

I'm having trouble figuring out when guys mean what they say and when they don't.
Can you guys help me out? Honestly. Like I'm not naive but it might seem that way but just take a look at these situations... Some real... Some arent.

"Here we go yo, Here we go yo, so what, so so whats the scenario!"

SCENARIO 1:
A guy and a girl once were 'talkin''. We know what talkin' is. Not an official relationship but like exclusively messing, talking, and claiming eachother. Eventually the relationship falls off. But every now and then he hits her up like "i miss you" or "i would like to see you sometimes, when you get a chance".
Is this code for 'i would like to have sex with you again' or does he genuinely mean he misses her presence in his life? Does he want to start something back up with her?

SCENARIO 2:
A guy and a girl HIT IT OFF from the moment they meet. Like, in a surreal way. They both have a desire to know more about each other and could see themselves in an actual relationship with each other. Things were going good until he continued to express his feelings, falling too fast within a matter of days. She expressed that she felt he was 'doing too much' and he calmed down verbally but his actions still portrayed a certain clingy-ness that was getting rather annoying.
Does this mean she doesn't actually like him and the initial feelings were temporary?
When he goes off on rants about how much he likes her does he mean it? Or is this a set-up for the future?

SCENARIO 3:
A guy has been in a relationship with his girlfriend for a year or two. He has a female friend in which he is very good friends with, they can talk to each other about anything. Sometimes when they are talking to each other about relationships, he uses his female friend as the example, as his wife, etc. And they had discussed how a girl would know when he likes them, and the way he shows it, and the female friend feels as if he may like her. He is also a huge flirt. When he had to demonstrate something rather provocative on his female friend, he later whispered 'sorry i had to do that to you' FEMALE FRIEND: it's ok 'oh you liked it? i liked it too'
The girlfriend doesn't feel threatened by this female but the female friend feels as if she should.
Should she feel threatened? Or is his flirtation innocent?

Here are some He says, He means things I found online.
Let me know if you agree with them.


1."I think we should see other people" means "I'm interested in someone else, I just don't want to be deceitful"

2."I'd love to be more intimate with you I just don't want it to ruin our relationship" means "I just don't want to sleep with you but you're fun to hang out with so I'ma let you down gently"

3."Call me when you get back. I want to make sure you get in safe" means "I want to make sure you ain't bring nobody home"

4."I don't like to cuddle" means "I like having sex with you but I'm not emotionally attached to you"

5."Give me a call sometime" means "I'm not gonna chase you, you aren't good enough for that but you can chase me if you want"

6."I'm so unhappy. I wish [Girlfriend's Name Here] was more like you" means "I want to sleep with you and this way, you won't feel bad about it"

That's it. And you if you guys ever have anything juicy you want me to talk about or a juicy question you wanna know about but are afraid to ask... shoot me an e-mail... and i'll post it.. anonymously of course. MizzJazzy08@tmail.com. And that's a zero-eight.

A Little Funny 4 You:
You are so fat the scale says 'one at a time please.. one at a time' or 'to be continued' LOL...

Ok it's not that funny.. I know..
But this is pretty good...

10 things I hate...

I'mma switch this up.
This is ten people i hate that I can't have.
FELLAS SCROLL DOWN TIL U SEE JESSICA ALBA.
aka my list of potential [young] celebrity husbands..
the grown men would be an entire different list
[shemar moore. siigghhh..]
IN ORDER
::least to greatest::

#10
Tahj Mowry

Actor as seen on Smart Guy etc.

#9
Justin Nozuka

God I love Asians. Can I just say I'd fall in love with this boys voice.. Singer as heard in 'After Tonight' etc..

#8
Shia Labeouf

You gotta admit he is HAWT now.. But I loved him back in Even Stevens days.. Actor as seen in Disturbia etc..

#7
Columbus Short (ok hes almost grown but.. o well)

Look at those lips. Actor as seen in Stomp the Yard etc. He could get it. Mmm.

#6
Shad Moss

Look at that smile.. Look at that line-up..
I had the toughest time deciding on which pic to put up..
Rapper/Actor formerly known as Lil' Bow Wow. As seen in Roll Bounce etc..

#5
Chris Brown

More pictures of Rihanna popped up than him.
THATS A DAMN SHAME!
Can't even google his own name without a reminder..
Ya'll know who he is..

#4
Corbin Bleu

I don't think he likes his hair anymore. I think they are making him keep it up because of us, ladies. Poor thing.
Anyway, Actor Corbin Bleu as seen in the High School Musical series.
I STILL HAVEN'T SEEN HSM3 DAMMiT!

#3
Jeryn Mays

Toughest time finding a good pic, i had to go through his FB to find one..
Jeryn Mays.. Disney Channel Movie Surfer! Don' HATE!

#2
Lee Thompson Young

We've had this discussion in one of my recent blogs
Actor.. as seen in Jett Jackson

#1
Nico Cary

Had to go through his FB for a good one too..
He's an artist.. In every way shape and form.
Mm mm mmm.

Lemme know who I forgot..
I know some of you guys are prolly mad about the order in which I put some of them..
Cus Chris Brown is supposedly hot shit but like.. you gotta remember, imma dorkk
i can't handle a guy with tooooo much swag lol..
comment with your top 10..

i couldnt make this a like all girl blog so i also compiled a list of 5 girls id hit..
ONCE AGAIN IN ORDER...
::least to greatest::

#5
jessica alba

gorgeous.. she could get it

#4
alicia keys

beautiful and talented.. but she cut her hair

#3
angelina jolie

she cute.. even if her lips are made of her butt

#2
beyonce

you already know

#1
adriana lima

beautiful beautiful girl
Victoria Secret model if you didnt know...

maybe you disagree with my order, maybe you don't
maybe you think some other females should have been on here
maybe you think im a lesbian now
o well heres what you do about it..
comment with your top 5
and dont judge me

Today's Observations

[they're actually from yesterday but it was a long night]
Yesterday I had a lot of contemplative time. I was on the T for an extremely long time, trekking to Cambridge, MA only to have to turn around and come right back.. <-That's a blog in itself. Anywho, I made a few observations while I was out.

The first is, homeless people stink a lot. I'm sick and I can't smell most scents or taste most food but the stench of this man almost threw me onto the tracks. Seriously like, it was a problem. To add to it, his entire ass was hangin out of his pants.. (maybe that's where the stench came from)

I also came across some interesting people on the train.. I had a seat from the jump because BC is the end of the line.. So when it started getting crowded everyone was above me, u know? Well as it gets crowded this short, hairy faced, Hispanic dude, looked about 22, he like dodged traffic and jumped hurdles to stand over in my little area. No lie. So I turn my body outward so that people won't like.. think we're together cuz he was real close and he was like holding the bar that was over my head and I was just.. uncomfortable.. To make it worse, he starts singing! Not humming a tune but like legit belting whatever was in his headphones. And to drag more attention to himself, his phone starts ringing all loudly but he can't hear it because he has headphones in AND he's singing and I was just upset. So, I read. Yes, I'm one of those losers that read on the T.

What else did i see? Hmm. Oh yeah! I realize that those fitted caps, new era, etcc... they are so misleading. You will think a guy looks sooo goood and as soon as he takes off his hat his forehead is 5 inches higher than you expected, or his hair line is extremely wide or he has a widow's peak.. and then you're disappointed. SO ladies, before you get in too deep with a guy make sure you've seen him without his hat. Something I've noticed about life in general is that 'i don't want to be in a relationship right now' crap is bullhair.
Yes, bullhair.
truth is whether or not someone says they want a relationship, when they find that special someone that they can't pass up on, their mind will change. Point blank. So if you're at that inbetween stage with someone, where you want a relationship but they 'don't want a relationship right now' for whatever reason, forget about them. Either letting them go will make them chase you and realize that they like.. want you.. or this will save you from a long line of disappointment and misery.
Cuz most of the time, even if it's subconscious, the reason they don't want a relationship is because you're not the full package, or not enough of the package to change their mind. They still have a wandering eye that they aren't willing to turn to you, they aren't willing to give up their right to search. But if you are in this situation, don't force anythingg.. Cuz that's how people end up cheating on people.

today i was watching akeelah and the bee and... it brought me back to Jett Jackson days. I just want to put out a PSA... if anyone knows Lee Thompson Young or anyone that looks just like him... Please put me on. Because even tho I 'don't want a relationship right now' I'd drop that.. for him.

siiiigh....

Courage to Know [the fourth]

Today's thursday and by now, I really HOPE my readers know what that means. If not, you know there's always a link for you here. Today we went to St.Mary's hall which is where the Jesuits live on the campus. Jesuits are really strong people they just get sent all over the place for the greater mission it's crazy. On top of that they take a vow of celibacy, poverty, and obedience. They can't get married, have sex, or kids. They can't own anything. They have to go to like their leader person for like allowances. And they live almost in like a dorm like us.. But I don't have enough information to write an entire blog about this so I'm going to take this on a total different turn.. And head to a subject for the grown and sexy =]

For the Grown and Sexy [the second]

A few nights ago me and the ladies had a late night get together type thing. And you know how minds get when it’s late… our discussion got pretty juicy… I brought up the point that I want a guy to get me in the mood.
I mean I have no problem getting myself in the mood, and candles and flowers and all that romantic stuff is dandy.. but what if a guy could make you want it anytime anyplace no matter the surroundings… You wouldn’t even have to mentally prepare yourself to be in the mood. With this dude, don't want to have a choice… I call him Mr.Erogenous.

Here are some tips for the rest of you mediocre males.


An erogenous zone is an area of the human body that has heightened sensitivity and stimulation of which normally results in sexual response[better known as your 'spot'] Depending on the individual, this could include any and all areas of the body, but the majority of men and women have common erogenous zones. The male and female genitalia can also be declared as an erogenous zone but for this particular article I’ll be focusing more on areas that are not directly connected to or not within the reproductive system. There will be illustrations to help you identify further the area described. And yes, these zones apply to both men and women.

Scalp-
It is an area good for petting someone; but besides that, it contains nerve endings that are sensitive to sensual stimulation. Brush the hair or the scalp with your fingers. Not advisable for those with flakes but you’re always free to try.
I personally love when a guy puts his fingers through my hair like J.Holiday lol. I love head massages or just when a guy is playing with my hair. I also like holding the back of a guys head or rubbing his head. I don’t know if guys actually like it or not lol

Ears-
Bundles of nerve endings are in and around the ears, making them ultra-sensitive to your touch. Use the pads of your index finger and thumb to massage the outer ears with slow, firm movements. Gently squeeze the earlobes. Explore the area behind the ear with your lips and tongue, and then exhale deeply but gently while you keep nibbling. Avoid the ears with severe “otitis” related infections.

I personally love doing this [and I hear I’m pretty good at it] But I dislike it when it’s done to me.. Hmm. Idk why. I feel like some people blow too hard and aren’t gentle with it.. Sometimes I even hold my breath while doing it. It’s like.. people that can’t whisper.

Neck-
This might be a hot spot for everybody. The reason: the neck is sensitive to gentle and firm pressure applied to it. Kissing, caressing, and a little nibbling on the neck are potentially powerful in terms of stimulating your partner. Sucking blood, on the other hand, will land you in jail, unless you’re a vampire.Not just any part of the neck, but the BACK of the neck. Starting in the hollow part behind her ear, try to just barely brush the surface of her skin with your breath before initiating light contact. The goal is to try to keep the touch light enough to be noticed, but not so light that it starts to tickle. Kissing is always a plus, but remember to measure her state of euphoria based on how deep she is breathing.

I feel like in middle school when we talked about 'spots' everyone said their neck and everyone assumed neck. I know for me, my neck was never like my main spot. But now, some guys do a very good job with it.

Breasts-
I know its another obvious zone, but try to avoid going immediately to the nipples. The whole breast area is sensitive from the bottom of the neck so start nibbling or touching her collar bone. Start by making small circles and gradually spread them out until you cup your hand gently under her breasts. The nipples should be your eventual destination, not the first. Women get wetter when you play with their breasts at the right moment. Men like it when women caress their chests and compliment how hard or tough it is. For men it’s more psychological when the chest area is concerned. Of course, there’s a part of stimulation there when we talk about nerves. But for the women, it’s really sensual stimulation we are talking about. The real target here is the nipple area but it can’t be really stimulating unless your partner is really turned-on. Touch the breast softly, then lift your hand away for a moment, and then continue. That allows your partner to have the important moment of anticipation. Stick to indirect stimulation of the nipples until they become aroused (hard). That’s the time when you start playing with the nipples with your hands or your mouth. Nipples and the areola are rich in nerve endings in both men and women.

I personally hate it when guys go straight for the nipples like… wha da?! And I get more out of watching his facial expressions then the actual act. And a lotta ya’ll take the word ‘nibble’ as bite and get out of control with it. I can honestly say I know like.. ONE guy that does this correctly. Got your pen and pad? Cuz ya’ll should be taking notes.

The Back-
Usually, it’s not that arousing but it’s enjoyable especially if you start massaging. Besides the pleasure of light and firm pressure on it, it also releases tension. It could even help with arousal, by increasing blood flow and engorgement in the pelvic area. It never hurts to throw in a few kisses there as well.

What? Not that arousing? I get aroused via back all the time! Kidding. But it feels hella good tho.

Stomach Area-
This is the area around the navel down to the pubic region. The thin dermis and minimal tissue in the area results in closely set nerve networks. Massaging this area can be ticklish for some; but once arousal reaches critical, massaging it can be extremely pleasurable.
Ribs - Not the entire rib cage, but the area closer to the breasts. Press gently and follow the lines of her ribs to- wards her breasts, but stop short of her actual breasts. You can use your tongue, fingers, or even the tip of your nose. If you want to add a little spice, try it with ice in your mouth.
Navel - This is another one of those love/hate zones. Find out if this tickles her fancy before you try it. If she's into it; use anything from your tongue to a strawberry. Don't make me explain the fruit...

LOVE IT! And I think I speak for all ladies when I say that. Like the lower waist is a big one… and like the side of the body.. Yeah… sigh.

The Buttocks-
As our butts are comprised of thick skin, muscles, and sometimes fat, stimulating it takes more pressure. They are less sensitive but intensely arousing when you know how to deal with them. They need stronger stimulation - try holding, kneading, patting or smacking. In all positions, the muscular movements of coitus stimulate the buttocks. Increase the pleasure by holding the buttocks tightly during intercourse.

In other words, smack dat ass. Pahahahaah.

Legs-
Inner thighs are always a great place to turn your partner on, as they don’t get touched much during every day life. Whether it is touching, kissing, licking, or nibbling, virtually everything you do around this area will be highly arousing. This and the stomach area can be used to approach the genitals during stimulation. It can also be used to tease your partner by trying to avoid his/her hot spot leaving them wanting for more. It sounds obvious, but don't just use her thighs as an expressway to her genitals. Spend some serious time caressing the inside of her legs and tease her by stopp- ing just short of the mark. The thighs are one of your best choices for massage oils or lotions.
Back of the Knees - Women know enough to put perfume back here so make sure you take the time to notice. Its also a very ticklish spot for some, so you would do better to kiss her gently and work her way to the inside of her thighs.

Inner thighs… Ahhh yes. That’s a good one. I doubt this is a unisex erogenous zone because I couldn’t see myself groping any guys inner thigh. It’d be a little strange. Don’t cha think?

Fingers and Toes
They're a lot more sensitive than you might think and for whatever reason, a relatively large area in the brain receives sensation for them. Lightly kissing or passionately sucking them, especially combined with the sensations you're causing in the genitals, can be incredibly erotic.If you want to start slow, caress her toes while giving her a foot massage and work between. I don't know any woman who would turn down a foot massage, so your chances of playing footsie look pretty good.

I used to think toe sucking was gross til this guy did an amazing job. I wouldn’t suck nobody’s toes though. And he said he only did it cuz I have nice feet but I’m pretty sure my toes weren’t the first he’d sucked. He also gave a really really good foot massage. If you guys would get over your effin foot fear you could be providing some ladies with some good ish.

Lips-
Men and women love kissing. You might not know it but the lips have network of sensitive nerves capable of arousing you when stimulated. The tongue and the cavity inside the mouth are also as sensitive. That’s the reason why French-kissing is such a fun activity to indulge in. Beware of bad breaths.

I love kissing... SOME people. It's weird because some people aren't bad kissers they just kiss differently. Some people like a lotta tung, some people only like a little bit, some people like a lotta lip and no tung at all. I mean I can work with any style but I have a style that I prefer. And when the guy I'm kissing has the same style, it just makes it so much more enjoyable =]

Here's a little funny for you.

Good Change. Bad Change.

Both unfamiliar with our surroundings, we tip toe through love land's
unknown. we were anxious to explore, yet cautiously avoiding routes of temptation
and lust.. attempting to lengthen our connection's innocence..
we proceed with caution into each other's lives.

as if "fragile, handle with care" was projected from my eyes, he gently lifts me above my doubts,
allowing him to receive the benefit of it.

destination unknown.

I smile, gazing above at the possiblities til a glimpse of reality shoots across the sky.
Leaning in to taste his promises I suddenly pull back.
Illegitimate concerns and fear enter my veins, spreading to the vessels of my heart.
"Put me down" I asked,
"Where did you think you were taking me? You're trying to take advantage
of my vulnerability, you see that I'm naive." though this was only my worries taking over me.
So I escaped back to the familiarity, structure, and repitition of pre-Love Land's life.
Fearing change of location.
Comfortable in my current being yet oblivious to opportunities outside of it.
Settling for okay, afraid extraordinary is non-existent.

He desires to search the land for change, for something less mechanic than the usual.
I tell him to continue his journey but he refuses to depart alone.
I tell him to find another co-pilot but he insists...

I must leave with him.

Now familiar with the prelude of our surroundings we walk a little less cautiously.
Taking one or two shortcuts down roads of infatuation and passion.
We return to the main road, attempting to regain our connection's innocence,
realizing we can never get it back.
now we're forced to proceed with a different form of caution
including contraceptives and control.
the "fragile, handle with care" fades to black as a new scene begins titled
"hurt me".
He lifts me above my doubts with his lies, allowing him to receive the best of me.
I smile again, gazing above at hollow possibilities til a glimpse of reality shoots across the sky.
I ignore the signs and lean in to taste his promises.
Legitimate concerns and fear didn't even brush my skin.
"Never put me down" I asked.
Giving him an open door to drop me, take advantage of my vulnerabilty.
Blinded by mislabeled love I blocked everything else out.
He was becoming my familiarity, structure, and repitition
and i feared change of location.
Comfortable with my current being yet oblivious to opportunities outside of him.
Settling for him, thinking there's nothing better.
Until the day he desires to search the land for change,
for something less mechanic than me.
I tell him I will go with him but he refuses to take me with him.
I tell him I'm the perfect co-pilot but he insists...

I must be left behind.

I fell from a high place into hologramic arms.
Leaving me landed, alone and bruised.


Sent from .:JaZz0:.'s T-Mobile Sidekick®

Livin' In Perfect Harmony

Today we're going to talk about the good stuff.

Love, relationships maybe some sex. You know, all that good stuff. I have a couple topics I want to discuss that have been heavy on my mind. These include, biracial couples, dating people with heavy accents, or dating a person that primarily speaks another language. I also want to hit the topics of liking the idea of someone verse actually liking them. That will also include someone having potential verse someone having something special. And last but def. not least.. dating athletes... Let's get it.

Bi-Racial Couples

He better get it.

Lol.

I have no problem with bi-racial couples. Matter fact, I want to marry an Asian man so my kids can look like Amerie. no suh, see that's the problem right there. I feel like some ghetto black broads date outside their race because they want their kids to have good hair and a nice complexion. I don't know about you but, that pisses me the fvck off. If you were to date outside your race, what would be your reasoning??

I know for me, I am actually attracted to guys of a lot of different races. I don't know how people can straight up say.. I only talk to white girls or I only talk to black and Spanish guys like.. You never know what is gonna appeal to your eye. And you def. never know what's gonna appeal to your heart. My roommate is always talking about how theres no such thing as liking only light skin black boys or only liking dark skin black boys. And she's right, maybe you usually pull light skin black boys or they catch your eye first but eventually there will be a dark skin boy that you find absolutely gorgeous. You can't limit yourself.

And I try not to limit myself but... It's like guys outside my race(s) don't take me seriously. We've all been through it. You approach a group of your caucasian associates and they all start trying to 'act black' "What's Up DAWG!" and they try to dap you up.. Or they try to 'act black' by saying "Shooot" or "Girrrrrl" and it's like you don't have to change they way you act because a black person has approached you. It pisses me off yo. Because what if I was genuinely interested in you. I can't even get past that interest because you feel like you can't be yourself, or have to be someone else when you're around me. Are black girls just too unapproachable? or intimidating?

Hell, sometimes I feel intimidated. A lot of people stick with their culture group. Hispanics tend to date hispanics [and stay with them forever] asians usually date asians.. And when I have a genuine attraction for either a hispanic guy or an asian guy I feel like even if they are being themselves around me, they'd never take it past the friendship level to anything serious because I'm not hispanic or asian or cape verdean. Is this true? Honestly with the hispanic and asian aspect of it.. Sometimes I feel inferior to the hispanic and asian females I'm 'competing' against [for lack of better words]. They're beautiful. Can a hispanic or asian guy see beauty in me, even though I'm not hispanic or Asian??

Maybe they think the same thing that I think about them. Maybe they're afraid that I don't date out of my culture. But hell, I don't know how anyone can look at me and say that. I'm mixed with so many things. Geez. Do you guys think I could bag a Hispanic or Asian guy tho?? How do I know if he's taking me seriously?

It shouldn't be about this. right? Like, we should like people for what they are inside and all that corny junk. But the truth is, attraction is the first step. I don't care what anyone says, relationships with people you aren't attracted to DON'T WORK! I've been there, tried that.

All of these black and white people dating each other are the beginning of a melting pot and soon enough everyone should be able to date everyone but right now I'm still intimidated when it comes to approaching a Hispanic or Asian guy.

Accents

I've always straight up said if I found a black guy with a British accent panties would drop immediately, not literally but you get the point. I think British accents are soooo HOT! And French guys with nice bods and long hair are hot too.. So I started making the generalization that guys with accents were hot. Boy, was I wrong.

Over the past few weeks, I have encountered two new accents. I met a kid from the Ivory Coast whose accent was mixed with a Boston accent and it was just... strange.
I also met a kid from Nigeria and it was just... gross..

What sucks is, they were both very attractive males but I couldn't get past the accent.
Am I shallow?

The fact that I can't get past something on the outside? I mean it's almost the same as the people that don't date outside their race or complexion. I don't date outside my accent with the exception of a hot British guy.
Would you be embarrassed of a guy or girl with a gross accent? Like, in public.

It's almost the same as dating a straight guy that's kind of.. flamboyant. You'd be a little embarrassed. Or dating a guy that couldn't dress... at all.

What's acceptable and what isn't. What do I need to get over and what requirements do I keep?
And seriously, am I shallow?

Different Language

This also goes back to the bi-racial thing and like how.. people of the same cultures tend to associate with each other. If you aren't a part of that culture and like, your boyfriend brings you to a family event or to like the meeting for the Korean club like, how do you know if people are talking shit when they're speaking Korean? Can I just state a fact, if you and the significant other don't speak the same language at all, it's not going to work, period. But I'm talking about if the other person speaks say, Spanish to his roommates or most of his friends. Wouldn't you feel left out?? Wouldn't it just make your insecurities worse or create concerns??

This isn't about language but like... How do you deal with it when you're significant other is like.. really nice ...to everyone. Opens doors, carries things, tutors, touches that spot on their lower back [not too high where it's just friends but not too low where it's I just want some ass. Hitch anyone?]. And how do you deal with it when all of his friends... that he's nice too... are GORGEOUS and awesome... Lol. I guess you just have to trust the fact that.. he's with you right. Meaning he made a choice to be with you.. when he could have chosen her. Right? Then why do guys cheat? Or have things on the side? Like, don't make it official if you have other prospective bun joints. Because once you make that commitment.. I'm trusting that you chose me. Right?

Liking Someone VS Liking the Idea of Them

I could argue about this topic for hours but basically, we all have an ideal girlfriend or boyfriend in mind right... Like I want my husband to be taller than me with my heels on.. Nice body, humorous, relationship with God, into performance, visual and fine arts, in touch with his emotions, confident, etc. So when I find someone that meets my criteria, I think I like them but really.. I just like the idea of them..

Someone that fits your criteria has potential.. Having potential doesn't mean that he's the one. It means he fits the criteria and he's convenient... There is a certain 'it' factor that one must have to be the one. He could also have 'it' and not have potential. There could be something about him that draws me in yet he could have a girlfriend, or dress weird, or be short.

My problem is deciding whether or not I actually like someone, or if I just like the idea of them. Do you have to like the idea of someone BEFORE you begin to like them?

I don't think so. I think you have to like the idea of someone before you get into a relationship with them but I don't think liking the idea of someone is a prerequisite for just liking them. I have liked the idea of a few people at BC but no one has 'it' yet. I've even begun to like some people that I like the idea of but still not 'it' factor. Am I wasting my time if I entertain these 'it'-less guys? Or should I just wait until I find someone with the 'it' factor??

Dating Athletes

you guys remember my article about dating freshman... I feel like when it comes to dating athletes, everyones the Freshmen.

Why do we classify athletes in such a separate category? Have their actions given themselves this rep or have our assumptions of them forced them to act this way?

I feel like I came to college with this huge mentality that every male athlete was going to be an asshole.. I feel like there are definitely a few male athletes that have proved me right but I also feel like I am witnessing the transformation.
Some of them start off as nice guys, but when bitties with raging hormones get athlete-happy what do they expect? To get treated like a lady? Oh yeah, here's my pussy on a platter. Athlete: no, no I can't accept that. YEAH RIGHT! It grows to the point that they expect pussy on a platter, from every female.. because SOO many females are handing it over. And when you're that girl that's like.. Suck your dick? What?! Nigha, hell no! You think he's an asshole because of how he approached you. And yes, i agree, he was out of place but, what did you expect when every other female is like "I'll do whatever you liike". Are there any athletes that don't transform?? Or are they all bound to be assholes...

By the way, as friends a lot of them are madd cool but I'm talking about relationship wise.


I asked a lot of questions..
So here they are conveniently posted again for your convenience lol.
You don't have to answer like all of them or anything, you don't get a grade for this or anything. I'm just interested in what other people think about this...


*1*If you were to date outside your race, what would be your reasoning?

*2*Are black girls just too unapproachable? or intimidating?

*3*Can a hispanic or asian guy see beauty in me, even though I'm not hispanic or Asian?

*4*Do you guys think I could bag a Hispanic or Asian guy tho?

*5*How do I know if he's taking me seriously?

*6*Am I shallow?

*7*What requirements are acceptable and what aren't. What do I need to get over and what requirements do I keep?

*8*If the other person speaks say, Spanish to his roommates or most of his friends. Wouldn't you feel left out?? Wouldn't it just make your insecurities worse or create concerns??

*9*How do you deal with it when you're significant other is really nice to all of his friends that are gorgeous and awesome?

*10*He made a choice to be with you.. when he could have chosen her. Right? Then why do guys cheat? Or have things on the side?

*11*Do you have to like the idea of someone BEFORE you begin to like them?

*12*Am I wasting my time if I entertain these 'it'-less guys? Or should I just wait until I find someone with the 'it' factor??

*13*Why do we classify athletes in such a separate category? Have their actions given themselves this rep or have our assumptions of them forced them to act this way?

*14*Are there any athletes that don't transform?


Totally forgot to ask about sex with people from other races and cultures... what's it like? is it much different? anyone have any crazy sex stories with people of other cultures? You can be anonymous if you want.

And if you haven't read season of love... please do.. you can click it..

....to remember

"i'll say congratulations then, i'll fade into the background"
-neyo

I was watching A Walk to Remember this weekend [[Yeah, I was bawlin for those of you that read my FB status]] and it made me think of HeartBreak [<-don't know who heart break is? youcan click that].
I mean, I wasn't a lukemia diagnosed dork on my death bed but I was a homeless yet college bound student that had to move away. So, Jamie and I shared that 'limited time' aspect of everything. And also like Jamie, I had a bucket list[don't know what that is? click it].
Before I left Maryland, there were a bunch of things I wanted to do and he knew every single one of them. He was my best friend before he was anything else. He cared a lot about me.
For those of you that know me, you know I'm pretty corny. I wanted to do things like, go to one of those pottery painting places and have a picnic. He made them happen. For those eight days, he was at my service giving me the best-last week in Maryland as possible.
I'm starting to see now that he would have done these things even if we didn't have feelings for each other. And I think that's partially where I got mixed up. These weren't acts of courting or any type of chivalry it was plain-old assistance. He just was helping me with my to-do list, if you think about it. I mean, I hate to dumb it down to that but, it's true!
Especially, now that I see him doing these things on his own with her. I wanted to be what she is to him so bad. Maybe too bad.

"I find myself wishing that you'd want to love again when looking in my eyes, wishing that my smile makes you wanna do surprises..." "I find myself thinking I can somehow prompt this change, thinking I can somehow save you from your past pain...."

I don't think I had ever felt so certain about anything in my life. It was crazy, the signs were there. Ridiculous signs, things that happen in movies. Shit that someone would have to have written for it to be possible. I just can't get over the fact that the signs were somehow wrong.
I know before in 'I Figured it Out'[wanna read it? click it] I said that I was probably placed in his life to assist him in moving on from his ex but I just can't get over it like... There was something there. It was so fvcking... like... it was definitly there, there's no denying. Was it just convenience? I don't know.
He called me yesterday. And I just sat there staring at the phone lighting up playing my Gym Class Heroes ringtone
"she says she loves me but she comes and goes as she pleases; when the door shuts, its like another papercut and im stuck with a hand full of band-aids until she comes back around like the ceiling fan blades"
I can't answer the phone. I mean, I could. I just didn't feel like being fake at the moment. I didn't feel like faking a smile, faking a laugh, acting like everything was alright, breathing in to utter the words, "how's [[gf's name here]] doing? oh, that's good".
I also didn't want to answer while I was around people, sounding as if I'm having an effin blast. I don't want him to think I've moved on, like he's totally out the picture. Don't get me wrong I moved on with my life socially but I can't deny the daily cameo of him, of us, of our memories together that arrive in my mind.
I have to suck it up.
I have to realize that I just don't exist ::in that way:: with him anymore. But speaking to him, is so hard to do without automatically assuming that position. One of the biggest things is talking about music. Him telling me about new songs, me doing the same for him. That was something special between us and it just isn't the same.
I wish I never accepted his friend request. Having him appear on my news feed is so tempting. And as I glide my mouse to the link I know I'm setting myself up for disappointment. Like, i know what could be on the page but clicking it just finalizes it for me. It rubs it in as well. Why do I even do that to myself? I don't like crying.
I don't know how Neyo does it.
I haven't been able to utter 'congratulations'
...yet
[[cop his album btw.. good shit]]

"She's with somebody else and now all I can do is smile and fade into the background
I'll say congratulations and I'll fade into the background"
-neyo 'Fade Into the Background'

[don't know that song? click it]